Heartbroken this morning...Update 10pm 7-8

[therock1811]

I never thought I'd be heartbroken once. But twice in a year? This is extreme.

I've been posting at a wrestling mb recently. And until last night, I had a great friend who we'll call kk. But something happened between us Sunday night when she crashed a "lounge" thread i'd done for me and another friend. I hadn't had it done, so of course I asked if it was necessary to do that. She thought I took it personally, and it caused her to stop talking to me, period. What was worse is that she finally decided she couldn't handle me and my volatile emotions anymore last night, and, through the other friend, more or less dumped me. Why me? Why???

[Miss Mary]

Jeremy - so sorry to hear this. It does hurt when a mb or email friend dumps us. Especially when it's someone you've never met, but you've poured your heart to them, nonetheless. I know the feeling well. It makes you question anytime you spend online, if it's worth it. What my experience with a former so-called online friend left me with - there are more good people online than not so good people. Just as in-the-flesh people we're in contact with - at work, in your family, community, friends in your church/school, etc. So try and focus on that - the good people in life. It's hard to forget the rest, but my advice would be to shift your focus from her to your other friends. I hope this advice helps in someway......

Mary

[therock1811]

Believe me, last night was hell. But thanks to someone else from that place, at least I didn't lose anything else. Like my sanity.

At least my sister is here, and we're gonna go to Florence Mall this morning.

[Stephanie]

I'm sorry to hear that Jeremy!

[TexasStooge]

Sorry to hear about your situation.

[azskyman]

Jeremy....so sorry to hear of your disappointment.

It's hard to think of our painful experiences as good ones. Miss Mary said a whole lot in her advice...spoken from her experience and her heart. I, too, have had good friends seem to be able to walk away seemingly untouched by it all.

But in the end, we learn from EVERY experience. We must look at each painful situation as a chance to look at who WE are, and how WE can improve...and all the while understand that we must get BETTER after those experiences and live stronger as a result.

Pain can make us hardened and cynical. That is something we can not let happen.

In the days and weeks ahead another door will open, another relationship will evolve, and you will come to understand that you are more capable than ever to care and be cared about.

[Skywatch_NC]

So very sorry, Jeremy ((((HUG)))))

[therock1811]

I decided to make one last attempt to save things...even though my gut tells me it won't happen. I sent this to her via e-mail:

You can avoid me all you want to, but i know you hear me. I want to know why you're doing this to me? I didn't have a clue you were just playing around with me Sunday which is why i reacted the way i did. i don't understand it. and what's more, if i ever got mad at you, i always wish i hadn't. and i don't recall ever being mad. upset? yes because you kept wanting to leave the boards. but mad, no. i cared about you...and i feel like you just turned on me. is this what it's come to? is that what you're doing? if so, fine. but all i ask is an explanation why?

Was that too harsh?

[Guest]

No that is not too harsh. I have had to write a similar e-mail to a former female friend of mine, and it looked similar to what you wrote. Of course, I actually physically saw this person.

Here's what I would do: I would take this entire situation, put it into a theoretrical casket and place it in the ground. The woman obviously does not deserve you, my weather friend!

I have said this a ton in my own threads, John's (Josephine96) threads, and I will say it again in yours: People, especially younger types, are not what they are cracked up to be.

[azsnowman]

Hang in there Bud......it SOUNDS like she wasn't WORTH your time, your intelligance, your GOOD looks. SO....CHIN UP, CHEST OUT and KISS HER BUTT ADIOS!


Seriously Jeremy, it DOES sound, IMHO that this person wasn't worth your time and effort.......it's tough, I know, loosing a wife and 2 kids 13 years ago.


Dennis

[therock1811]

You're right. She wasn't worth the month of time i wasted trying to make the thing work. It looks as if my gut was right. Time to bury the casket in the ground as NEWeatherguy said. I can't believe it came to this. But I deserve an explanation and a chance to have my side heard.

[therock1811]

Still no dialogue at present. I seriously doubt there will be any salvaging what was lost. At least me and this person are co-existing.

[therock1811]

This is unbelievable...within the last hour, a dialogue opened between me and her. Apparently I was not the intended target of this whole situation, but rather the third party was. I won't go into the details but this seems to be resolving as I speak.