Letter to a killer {not rated R.. but opinions wanted}

Josephine96 · #1 Postby **Josephine96** » Sat Jul 24, 2004 7:06 pm

Hello my storm 2k group.. This thread may sound scary and down right horrific but I'm trying hard for it not to be..

As you remember when I made a rememberance thread for my friend Linda Couch earlier this year.. {she's been deceased 5 1/2 years as of tomorrow}..

Well.. I was packing a few things a couple nights ago.. and I came across the article in the newspaper from when my friend was killed by the woman who ran a red light, and was allegedly drunk slamming into Linda @ 60mph.

Anyway.. In the article.. It also had "the killers'" address. Where she lived at the time of the accident. Allegedly she was sentenced to jail till 2006, but there are rumors that she either got out early or somehow even avoided jailtime.

Several people I've talked to on occasion have told me they'd like to write to Linda's killer. Not to slambast her.. but just to try to do it as a form of closure in the days that have passed.. in the past 5 1/2 years.

What do you think? Would you write a letter to someone who killed a friend or family member {even if it was just accidental} Or would you just leave it be..

If this thread is too intense or too anything you may remove it.. I'm just looking for opinions

David · #2 Postby **David** » Sat Jul 24, 2004 7:07 pm

Uh... if the person is crazy enough, a letter might send them after you. :eek:

I wouldn't want that...

Josephine96 · #3 Postby **Josephine96** » Sat Jul 24, 2004 7:08 pm

LOL True David.. that is true..

Josephine96 · #4 Postby **Josephine96** » Sat Jul 24, 2004 7:10 pm

It was just a thought me and my friends all have had from time to time.. We've wanted to just write her and ask her why, or tell her how bad our school suffered.

Remember.. this "killing" was not a murder.. Linda was killed because this woman was negligent behind the wheel..

Kiko · #5 Postby **Kiko** » Sat Jul 24, 2004 7:58 pm

How do you suppose a response from her would make you and your school chums feel better? It's fine for you to contemplate the tragedy, bring understanding to light, but to bring about more suffering from it?

Let it go, man. Enough demons chasing that woman, it's not like you're sending her a thank you card. Her prison time, or anticipation of it, was punishment meant to afford her the reflection needed to help her see the error of her ways.

You all need to find a productive remedy for your grief, something giving to society is always appreciated by someone somewhere. But this can only cause more pain.

Josephine96 · #6 Postby **Josephine96** » Sat Jul 24, 2004 8:08 pm

Hey Kiko.. To be honest.. I still have pain about Linda's death.. But the pains don't control me..

and By the way.. We really don't care if it would make her {the woman who killed Linda} feel bad.. If she was drunk like the report says.. then she didn't even know what happened possibly even let alone care..

Linda's parents lost their only child.. Gateway HS lost a shining star and the world lost a great slowly maturing young girl..

Besides.. How could it make myself or my friends feel bad if it's something we actually want to do..

Kiko · #7 Postby **Kiko** » Sat Jul 24, 2004 8:59 pm

You're putting yourselves in an ackward situation that I agree, it's healthy to hash out, but this can only be a constructive solution if you are ready to forgive and express that in the letter.

Go ahead, make an opening offer of honest dialogue and see how far it gets you. If done in a tactful manner, not just to satisfy your own need for closure, she may surprise you and welcome your communication as a way to express her own regret.

But try to do no further harm to your psyche or hers. She may need help in this area and it may just help.

Josephine96 · #8 Postby **Josephine96** » Sat Jul 24, 2004 9:04 pm

I understand that Kiko.. and the funny thing is.. Even though it may still hurt at times.. I do think I'm ready to forgive this woman and maybe even have been for a little while.. That's the reason I wanted to right the letter..

To vent some frustrations.. but also to let her know that I do forgive her for it.. I know not to expect an answer either lol.. But ya never know..

#9 Postby **Jack8631** » Sat Jul 24, 2004 9:23 pm

John, I'd leave that woman be. If you're looking for closure, focus that energy into a positive letter to Linda's family; let them know you are still thinking about her and miss her...I'm sure they would appreciate it.

Josephine96 · #10 Postby **Josephine96** » Sat Jul 24, 2004 9:32 pm

That's also a good idea Jack.. The ideas they are a plenty lol..

#11 Postby **BocaGirl** » Sat Jul 24, 2004 10:08 pm

Josephine96 wrote:It was just a thought me and my friends all have had from time to time.. We've wanted to just write her and ask her why, or tell her how bad our school suffered.

Remember.. this "killing" was not a murder.. Linda was killed because this woman was negligent behind the wheel..

John-ask yourself in this situation, what would Jesus do. I know that it's been done to death and because of that it might seem trite sometimes. But seriously, asking yourself that question will help you out of so many tight spots.

What would Jesus do in this this situation? I guess it depends how you see Him. I think He would tell you that maybe she suffered too, and that not everything has a "reason" that's understood by you and me.

If you see Him differently, then I guess you need to write your letter. But before you do, read your Bible John, especially John 7:24 and Matthew 7:1-5. I believe you'll find the answer there.

BocaGirl
Barbara

Josephine96 · #12 Postby **Josephine96** » Sat Jul 24, 2004 10:17 pm

Thank you Barbara.. I'll take a peek at those verses..

Letter to a killer {not rated R.. but opinions wanted}

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