Did you, do you, spank you children?

[azsnowman]

Did you, do you, spank your children as a means of discipline? I did and believe it or not, my kids have turned out pretty decent! Now, does spanking lead to abusive adults, I don't think so, does spanking your child make YOU an abusive person, I don't think so....I can tell you from first hand experience, I use to get my butt blistered MANY a time for mouthing off at my mother, telling lies AND MAN......talk about a blistered rear, I became VERY familiar with the PADDLE in school! My God, now days, if you even LOOK at a kid crossed eyed, YOUR the criminal and YOUR the one that's going to have "CPS" Child Protective Services, called on you and YOUR the one going to prison Kids today, IMHO, have WAY, WAY, WAY too many rights. Yes....there are a LOT of abused kids out there anymore due to a LOT of factors, the economy, drugs, alcohol etc, etc.....but DANG, if we were allowed to discipline our kids a LITTLE more, MAYBE, just MAYBE we could start to turn our society around!

Now mind you, I NEVER, EVER used anything other than my HAND to spank my children and NO......I didn't hurt them, just a swift pop and I had their attention! Now my mother, God Rest her soul, use to use a SWITCH on me! She would say, "Dennis, go outside and get me a switch!" WELL......knowing ME, I would get the *smallest* switch I could find and of course, the smaller, the worse the spanking hurt

Dennis

[mf_dolphin]

I will, did and do whenever it's warranted There's a big difference between spanking and beating your children. An attention getter swat every now and then has always proved an effection tool for me

[sunnyday]

We never spanked our children, and they are wonderful, caring adults. I believe that spanking teaches children to hit if they don't like what's going on. There are other effective, loving ways to discipline children.

[stormraiser]

I do and will continue to do so. I don't spank out of frustration, like my parents do, but I think it reinforces something in children to choose what is right, not out of fear, but because they want to please you.

[Lindaloo]

I do not believe in spanking. I believe in grounding. Or as my kids call it "groundation" When my son was in the 7th grade he pulled a stunt and I took him to the barber and got him a buzz cut. He never pulled that stunt again. lol.

[Amanzi]

I do, and will untill my children can understand and fully appreciate being "grounded"... A spanking is used in extreme cases of missbehaviour, and normally has to do with being rude to a grown up or being outrightly dissobedient... I never ever spank in anger or lash out with an open hand. ... I had corporal punishment at school, and a few spankings at home (my Mom should have given me more.. woulda saved her some trouble down the line)

[GalvestonDuck]

Oh please! A hand? A switch? A belt? Sheesh! One could be so lucky! That's not a beating!! And anyone who tries to classify it as anything more than what it is -- a spanking -- needs to do some research. I think it's total bunk that CPS tries to brand parents who spank as child abusers.

Why not go after the REAL abusers? Why not go after the ones who throw whatever they can get their hands on (keys, coffee, cans of food, books, etc) at their kids? Why not go after the ones who throw their kids into walls and down on the ground and then kick the crap out of them, in the back, ribs, head? Why not go after the ones who punch with fists? Why not go after the ones who pull their kids hair until handfuls come out and the kid's scalp pulls away from the scalp, leaving huge knots? Why not go after the parents who push their kids down onto a bed, pin them down, wrap their hands around their throats, and choke them until they turn blue? And WHY do they do this? Is the kid doing drugs, having sex, stealing, lying, skipping school? Heck, no! The child dropped something or woke the parent up or bought the wrond damn thing at the store. Thankfully, that's all I know about it...and that was bad enough.

They also need to go after the damn child molestors and incestuous demons who commit the worst kind of abuse. I can only imagine what those kids have to go through.

[Skywatch_NC]

Mom used to give my sister and I bare-bottom spankings while in our pre-school years! We learned FAST!!

As we got older...punishment became a sit on the chair for a period of time.

She never swatted us in public though.

Eric

[Suzi Q]

I was spanked three times when I was young. I never spanked my child she so well behaved when she was young it was frightening. I should have known it would mean hell to pay later, lol.

She did throw a fit in a restaurant once, on the floor kicking and screaming. I emptied my glass of cold water into her face. Never happened again.

[Stephanie]

I had been spanked when I was young - I turned out okay, I think??? :23:

SERIOUSLY, if I had children, I probably would spank them if they were bad in combination with "time out", groundings, etc. I don't believe it is abusive and there is a definate difference betwen a spanking and a beating.

[stormraiser]

Whoa, Steph, I though for sure you would say NO. :S Times, they are a changin'

[bfez1]

I did spank my kids "butts" when they needed it.
I agree with Marshall, a spanking it not a "beating."
Big difference!!!

[Stephanie]

Whoa, Steph, I though for sure you would say NO. :S Times, they are a changin'

Gotcha didn't I?

Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with it unless it is out of frustration or it turns into a beating. A slap on the behind does send a bit of a wake up call to a kid, or at least it did to me.

[Guest]

When I was little I recieved spankings (not that much though), some bare-bottom ones. OUCH! I am now a caring adult. I think when I have kids in the future, I will resort to groundings as punishment. Maybe a a little pop on the bottom every once and awhile if the behavior was extreme.

[tomboudreau]

We dont have any children...but when I was growing up, I was spanked when an "attitude adjustment" was necessary. It wasn't needed often, but when it was needed, we got it. And I think my brother, sister, and myself all turned out pretty good.

[timNms]

I learned early in life that if I misbehaved, my mom was going to spank me. Did she abuse me? NO. Am I thankful that she cared enough to discipline me? YES. My dad never spanked me. I think he was too tenderhearted LOL. But let me tell you....when my mom got through with me, I knew she meant business. I always hated that "Look" she gave me. She never had to say a word. If I acted a fool and I got the "LOOK", I knew what was going to happen when we got home!
She never beat me, never left bruises, (well, except for a bruised ego) but she cared enough to make me behave myself. Another thing I learned early in life: NEVER GET IN TROUBLE AT SCHOOL because my mom would know before I got home and I'd be in WORSE trouble when I got home!
Do I spank my kids? Yes. Well, not my daughter. She's too old. But she did get a few spankings when she was much younger. She never really was one to get into much mischief. On the other hand, there is my son. That kid came here getting into things. From the time he could crawl until now, he's constantly finding things to get into. He's had his share of spankings (not beatings).
Spanking is always the last resort at our house. We try time out, taking things away, and so on. If those things don't work, then it's time for a few taps on the bottom, along with an explaination as to why he/she is getting the spanking. Most often, the thought hurts worse than the spanking does, but the point is made and the behavior changes.

[azskyman]

I had a green stick (when it dried out, I would get a new one) on the top of the fridge. Less than three times in their lives, my boys found out what it felt like on their bottoms. (That's about the same number of times I remember a swat in my childhood).

However, just getting the stick down seemed to work.

In the end, when Jason was about 16 and his brother about 12, they confiscated that stick one day and officially proclaimed it was no longer needed. They had a ceremony to get rid of it forever.

They then discovered lots of things that hurt worse than it did. Like not getting the car keys or not spending the night with a friend.

I suspect they would have preferred the stick on many of those occasions.

[Stephanie]

I had a green stick (when it dried out, I would get a new one) on the top of the fridge. Less than three times in their lives, my boys found out what it felt like on their bottoms. (That's about the same number of times I remember a swat in my childhood).

However, just getting the stick down seemed to work.

In the end, when Jason was about 16 and his brother about 12, they confiscated that stick one day and officially proclaimed it was no longer needed. They had a ceremony to get rid of it forever.

They then discovered lots of things that hurt worse than it did. Like not getting the car keys or not spending the night with a friend.

I suspect they would have preferred the stick on many of those occasions.

That's funny!

[JCT777]

I was spanked a number of times as a child, and do not think my parents were abusive or treated me badly. There is nothing wrong with it IMO as long as it is not overly harsh and is used to discipline very bad behavior.

[j]

I think a good spanking is definitely needed from time to time. My major objection to it is, these sorry a** excuses for fathers that feel that their daughters have to pull down their pants as well as their underwear for bare bottom spankings. Just what in God's name does that accomplish other than humiliate the child? and...I have serious doubts about the true intentions of these Dads!