ENOUGH!!!!!!!!

therock1811 · #21 Postby **therock1811** » Wed Dec 10, 2003 9:05 pm

Pburgh wrote:Don't paint the house. You may need that money for your own survival plus loans from a 401K take time - time that you don't have. Run, Run, get away from all of that.

Yeah...I'll second...don't even worry about the house, just get out...

chadtm80 wrote:Go and Go now!! He is not going to change.. Count your losses and leave.. Easier said then done, I know.. But trust me.> You need to GO.. If you need anything just let us know

Again, exactly my thoughts...

blizzard · #22 Postby **blizzard** » Wed Dec 10, 2003 9:15 pm

My prayers are with you also Deb. God bless you and God speed.

#23 Postby **Stephanie** » Wed Dec 10, 2003 9:28 pm

Deb, I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I would get out FAST and get legal help NOW so you can understand what your rights are and what you need to do to help yourself before you lose everything.

God wants you here, but he's telling you it's time to move on to a better life HERE ON EARTH. You cannot help your husband, he has to help himself.

Miss Mary · #24 Postby **Miss Mary** » Wed Dec 10, 2003 9:36 pm

Deb - like Karan, I also am not familiar with your situation. And I feel bad that I haven't been around much to follow topics closely. But from what I've read here, you've been given very good advice. It's hard to think only for yourself but this is what you must do. I had to end my first marriage, b/c my ex wasn't going to face up to what he was doing (living with his g/f, not the same thing but it broke my heart). I put up with a lot of you know what for 7 months and then just said to myself - I don't deserve this. And I promptly got a lawyer. I never looked back either. Please lean on all of us thru this very rough time.

It's scary being out on your own after you've been married. But this sure seems like to time to take care of YOU.

Hugs.

Mary

StormCrazyIowan · #25 Postby **StormCrazyIowan** » Wed Dec 10, 2003 9:46 pm

Once a person has a drug habit, that becomes their life and nothing else matters! You deserve more than that and shouldn't have to live that way, so get out girl, and get while the gettins good!!! You'll be in my prayers....

Stormsfury · #26 Postby **Stormsfury** » Wed Dec 10, 2003 10:04 pm

StormCrazyIowan wrote:Once a person has a drug habit, that becomes their life and nothing else matters! You deserve more than that and shouldn't have to live that way, so get out girl, and get while the gettins good!!! You'll be in my prayers....

Especially when dealing with drugs like crack and heroin ... extremely addictive, and all sense of reality is gone once the drug takes over their lives ... to an addicted drug user, nothing else is important except for that next hit or score ...

SF

Lindaloo · #27 Postby **Lindaloo** » Wed Dec 10, 2003 10:29 pm

Miss Mary, after going through what she has had to endure, I am sure she will be much happier out there on her own. IMO, what marriage? A marriage is two sided. You gave it all you had deb, time to move up and move out.

Josephine96 · #28 Postby **Josephine96** » Wed Dec 10, 2003 10:34 pm

Deb.. I have to agree with everyone else here.. You don't need to sort of thing.. Get away from it and stay away from it..

GulfBreezer · #29 Postby **GulfBreezer** » Wed Dec 10, 2003 10:35 pm

Deb,
My prayers are with you! Godspeed my friend! Check your PM's!!

Miss Mary · #30 Postby **Miss Mary** » Wed Dec 10, 2003 11:18 pm

Lindaloo wrote:Miss Mary, after going through what she has had to endure, I am sure she will be much happier out there on her own. IMO, what marriage? A marriage is two sided. You gave it all you had deb, time to move up and move out.

Oh I agree, but taking that first step - packing/leaving or seeing a lawyer - is not easy. That's what I meant. I certainly don't want you to stay Deb - you need to take care of yourself.

Mary

deb_in_nc · #31 Postby **deb_in_nc** » Thu Dec 11, 2003 3:41 am

Maybe a bit of good news. His Mom talked to him on the phone last night. She's taking him somewhere this morning. He called the place he's going and they told him to be there at 9 am with his clothes. I'll let you know this afternoon if he went in. At least I'll have a little breathing room to get things done before I sell.

Love to all,
Debbie

blizzard · #32 Postby **blizzard** » Thu Dec 11, 2003 4:24 am

That certainly is good news. Maybe he is recognizing that he needs to change. The first step is always the hardest.

Again, Good Luck and we are always with you in prayer and only a PM away

ColdFront77 · #33 Postby **ColdFront77** » Thu Dec 11, 2003 4:45 am

I will add to everyone else's regard, Deb. The sooner you leave the absolute better it will be. I wish you the best of luck.

Lindaloo · #34 Postby **Lindaloo** » Thu Dec 11, 2003 8:31 am

Miss Mary wrote:Oh I agree, but taking that first step - packing/leaving or seeing a lawyer - is not easy. That's what I meant. I certainly don't want you to stay Deb - you need to take care of yourself.

Mary

I knew what you meant. lol. I know you have been through it already. IMO, I would make him leave my home. I would make him pack and leave.

#35 Postby **Stephanie** » Thu Dec 11, 2003 9:59 am

deb_in_fl wrote:Maybe a bit of good news. His Mom talked to him on the phone last night. She's taking him somewhere this morning. He called the place he's going and they told him to be there at 9 am with his clothes. I'll let you know this afternoon if he went in. At least I'll have a little breathing room to get things done before I sell.

Love to all,
Debbie

That is good news Deb! Now take that breathing room and get your affairs in order so you can walk away clean!

Amanzi · #36 Postby **Amanzi** » Thu Dec 11, 2003 10:34 am

Debb,

Please keep us up to date. If you need anything please contact me. Take care.

ENOUGH!!!!!!!!

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