#7 Postby Miss Mary » Mon Apr 26, 2004 5:44 am
Hey John - here's another way to look at it. I thought I wanted someone so badly too at 17, almost 18. Devoted 2 years of my HS (Junior/Senior) years to a steady boyfriend. We married a year out of HS. Divorced almost 8 years later. I have so many memories from HS or my early 20s, that's he involved in. I know I can't wipe him out of my past, but I'd like to do it over! I wish I hadn't even had one date with him! What was I thinking to get tied down so early in life? My parents had a rocky marriage and I think I just so much wanted that happy homelife I craved. So much so I went out and almost created it. Trouble was it was all in my head! He wasn't committed to our marriage, or as much as I was. While that experience made me who I am today, it was not always easy. Just for one example, my oldest daughter went to her first Prom this past weekend. And many discussions came out of her going - what my prom(s) were like, what her dad's were like. Who we went with, what I wore, did we have after prom's back then (the dark ages you know), etc. So I had to go down that road of memories again, and my ex was smack in the middle of them. Ugh.
What I'm trying to say is this - don't try so hard, the right girl will come along. Just don't rush it - you're only 21. The time of your life, IMHO.
Mary
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