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Inlaws.... What are they good for????????
Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2003 7:45 pm
by chadtm80
Ill tell you what there good for..
CABLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL
Never been an Inlaw fan, but dam.. Jenns Ma earned some MAJOR Brownie points with me for this one.. She got an early Christmas gift for us... She ordered cable for us again.. They will be here to hook it up wednesday... WOOOO HOOOO.. Sports, Sports, Sports, Sports, and Sports.. We canceld cable a few months back.. Just got to be too much Stinking money.. But I guess she got tired of hearing me complain about not getting my games televised localy.. Best part is that the Bill is going to her house.. LOL Thanks ma

Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2003 7:49 pm
by Lindaloo
AW!! That is extra special of her to do that for you two. I will trade ya. hehe.
Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2003 7:52 pm
by chadtm80
AW!! That is extra special of her to do that for you two. I will trade ya. hehe.
Let them come hook it up first Linda.. Then we will talk

Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2003 7:59 pm
by deb_in_nc
My mom-in-law has been great throughout the ordeal with my husband. I don't know what I would have done without her all these years.
Debbie
Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2003 8:44 pm
by Miss Mary
Chad - now that's a very nice Mother-in-law indeed! I'd say that warrants her some brownie points!
I can't really relate to in-law woes. Had a great in-law family, during my first marriage. I was treated like a daughter and a sister, no in-law part about it. I hated to leave that family! Him? I was quite ready to ditch him, just not his family. LOL
Then I met Jim and I was friends with 2 of his sisters. Then I finally met the rest of the family. As we became serious, I felt twice blessed - to get a great second in-law family again! Now I haven't been quite treated as a sister or a daughter, I do feel like an in-law, but the other 5 in-law's feel the same way, in fact we joke we're out-law's. But that's beside the point. My #2 Mother-in-law, God rest her soul, was the best M-in-law in the world. I would love to emulate her when my girls are married someday. I can only hope to be like she was.
Now all of that said, you want to know who I've had a hard time getting along with - my own Mom! Yes, since I turned 16 or so, it's been a struggle. She gives my 2 brother's lots of grief too. I vowed years ago not to be like her.
Well, enough of all that. Chad - enjoy that cable!!!!
Mary
Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2003 9:14 pm
by Stephanie
Make sure Jen reads this!!!
You MUST BE extra special to your mother-in-law and Jen!
Marty's Mom, though not my in-law, is like a second mother to me. She's 81, bowls 3 times a week and lives at Home Depot!!! She used to do all of the maintenance on her old house!

Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2003 10:06 pm
by DaylilyDawn
I have never had a mother -in-law since my hubby lost his mother in a train car collision(stopped train on tracks, no cross bucks warning signs, she T-boned the train, died instantly)when he was a senior in high school. I met him 4 years later when I was a senior in high school.
But ask my hubby about my mom, he will tell you she is a good one.
Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2003 10:15 pm
by Miss Mary
2 stories to share:
After my first baby, Jim's mom came to help one day. She went about "her work" quietly, so I could rest. Did my laundry, dishes, tidying up. And took care of Nina. Allowing me precious hours to sleep again. She also brought along food for a home cooked meal - a fresh chicken to roast, side dishes, bread. She set our table, lit a candle or two. My husband Jim, and her son, walked in the door from work. He could barely ask how our day went and I could barely ask my mother-in-law to pull up a chair to sit with us and she was grabbing her coat and purse. She said - oh no thank you, but this is your time to be a family. And out the door she went! I thought I had offended her but Jim said that was her way of helping out - to give us our privacy.
My mom came a few days later. Started telling me how to care for my brand new baby, how she cared for us as infants. She fixed me chili (I was nursing, couldn't eat it) and expected me to sit down to a big lunch. I was still very sore (sorry guys!) and didn't want a big lunch. Couldn't understand how "this generation" was nursing babies, her generation didn't bother with that. She fixed us "dinner" too, but ended up clogging our disposal with raw vegetables. We had a near flood. She didn't know what to do with Nina and would promptly hand her to me. I was exhausted and just wanted a nap. And my mom wanted to sit and visit, talking endlessly. I was very relieved when she went home.
What I wanted was my Mother-in-law back!!! I took a page from Jim's Mom's book after that day. I honestly want to be just like that when my girls have their kids.
Mary
Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2003 10:35 pm
by stormraiser
My wife's mother is OK. She only pops in once a year. She lives in Atlanta (though I wish she lived here and we there). She comes to visit and supports how we are with the children. She doesn't try to take control at all.
Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2003 11:04 pm
by Lindaloo
chadtm80 wrote:Let them come hook it up first Linda.. Then we will talk

Ya may have dug your hole deeper. Now, you have to stay in her good graces or she will holler "DISCONNECT!!" She has ya now bud.

LOL!!
Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2003 11:08 pm
by blizzard
Lindaloo wrote:chadtm80 wrote:Let them come hook it up first Linda.. Then we will talk

Ya may have dug your hole deeper. Now, you have to stay in her good graces or she will holler "DISCONNECT!!" She has ya now bud.

LOL!!
Doh!! didn't think of that, did ya Chad....lol
Posted: Tue Dec 02, 2003 4:32 am
by ColdFront77
I "only" have three in-laws (and of course aunts, uncles and cousins).
Two sister-in-laws and one brother-in-law. We get along like siblings, despite them living in Massachusetts (one sister-in-law lives in Melbourne, FL).
Posted: Tue Dec 02, 2003 7:34 am
by chadtm80
blizzard wrote:Lindaloo wrote:chadtm80 wrote:Let them come hook it up first Linda.. Then we will talk

Ya may have dug your hole deeper. Now, you have to stay in her good graces or she will holler "DISCONNECT!!" She has ya now bud.

LOL!!
Doh!! didn't think of that, did ya Chad....lol
LOL, no I sure did not.. Damn always an alternative motive.. Like mother like daughter

lol
Posted: Tue Dec 02, 2003 10:20 am
by Amanzi
You lucky boy Chad!!!! Now your going to have to be a good boy all the time otherwise "snip snip".... uhhh your cable line that is
My Mom-in-Law is great....she lives 1000000 miles away

No, just kidding she is fantastic and has the kindest heart.
Miss Mary I had a similar experiance.....My Mom in-law helped out in a low key way when my son was born...my Mom, well she just didn't help at all (I think she was scared of getting under my skin!)
Posted: Tue Dec 02, 2003 11:05 am
by JCT777
Chad - that's great news! My wife's parents are wonderful people, and have helped us out with too many things to count. Wouldn't trade them for any in-laws in the world.

Posted: Tue Dec 02, 2003 12:23 pm
by Guest
Yup, my mom is pretty cool. We butt heads lots of times, her being the most liberal person possible, me being more "conservative", but it all works out in the end. I'm gonna feel spoiled after going a year without cable. I can't wait to watch my MTV again, LOL. My mom also watches Dustin for me during the day so I can go to school. She's just awesome. Thanks mom!
Chad's parents are pretty cool too. They always help us in a pinch. We're kinda young and unsure of things, and they help steer us in the right direction. They helped us purchase our house and I'm forever greatful for that. Plus I get along great with his family. I know I'm blessed to have such good people for family.
Posted: Tue Dec 02, 2003 12:38 pm
by raine
LOL!! Miss Mary we are like two peas in a pod!!
My mom in law is AMAZING...she is much like Mary's....will come and help out, the silent helper.Never buts in about how we choose to raise our kids and is always encouraging to us and our marriage.
My mom is the complete opposite....she's an unhappy person, so generally it's hard to be around her.I will say though that when the chips are down she is ready to help...she's just crabby and a bit persnickity and a bit gretzy and not all that perky.She always is telling me how to raise my kids, what I am doing wrong, what I need to do differently..ect.
Mary I howled with laughter about your baby and nursing...my mom did the exact same thing to me!!
Still you can't choose your mom or your inlaws...I'm thankful that I have a great mom in law and my mom....well I'm thankful for her too!
Raine
In laws
Posted: Tue Dec 02, 2003 12:52 pm
by Suzi Q
Well. my mother in law and I tend to bump heads more often that not. Probably due to the fact the he is the only one of 5 kids not living up in Illinois, so her time with him is limited and she spoils him worse than I do. Case in point, when we were up there last time, she's up at 6:00 AM making him a pumpkin pie since it was his favorite-and it WASN'T THANKSGIVING! So alot of our uneasiness has to do with control issues-I've been in control for the past 15 years and that goes right down the toilet when we're up there. Suddenly he's HER baby and the mother in me completely understands this so I back off. I get along great with his dad who adores me and vice versa, he is just like Ken. How Ken feels about HIS in-laws is another ball of wax, he thinks my mom is a bit uppity (which she is) but gives me grief saying I'm too hard on her. He gets along swimmingly with my stepdad, as do I. Now since I AM a mother-in-law I try to combine the best of both, but often fall way short as I tend to STILL be very protective of Melissa and have been told by son-in-law to "mind my own business" on one occasion. He woulda gone flying through my plate glass window had Ken not been there!

Posted: Tue Dec 02, 2003 1:10 pm
by opera ghost
My mom in law kicked major tailfeathers. In fact all of my inlaws were a major bonus in the whole relationship/marriage thing. I'm glad I knew my mom in law for almost 7 years before she passed away this summer- and I'm grateful still for my seriously cool dad in law and sister in law.
Which reminds me... Tonight I need to cook the turkey for "Dad's" visit. Can't wait *grins*
My husband adores my mom thankfully. And she treats him like the son she wished she had had.... It's one great big happy family. Thank goodness!
Posted: Tue Dec 02, 2003 1:33 pm
by bfez1
Sounds like you have a great mother-in-law, Chad.
Hope Jen is as happy with the cable as you are, cause you guys tend to "abuse" the sports channels, never getting enough of it.
