If any of you are still reading this thread.. I just thought I'd mention that this morning.. While I am still feeling hurt and betrayed.. I'm also feeling "scarred but proud"
Scarred because of what happened obviously lol.. But Proud because I had enough guts and glamour to speak my mind about why her and I should not go on our date.. I feel pretty good
Theresa is a TWISTED LIAR! :((
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No. What you need is to take a step back from everything. After reading this thread, I can safely say that you're so emotionally wrapped up right now, that you will unconsciously hold anybody you date in the near term responsible for what the last one did. You will want her not for herself, but rather to replace the one you just lost (or never had, as the case may be). You'll hold her to some lofty standard that she can't reach. All I can say is... been there.
Geez, dude... go hang out with your guy friends for a while. A little male bonding is good for the soul. Man to man, you don't NEED a girlfriend. If you do, then you're desperate, and that is not a trait women find attractive, unless they're looking for someone they can walk all over. Don't be that guy. Let the emotions die down for a while. When you stop feeling hostile toward everyone involved, then maybe you can move on. You're feeling burned right now, and the last thing you need is to get involved with another one.
Geez, dude... go hang out with your guy friends for a while. A little male bonding is good for the soul. Man to man, you don't NEED a girlfriend. If you do, then you're desperate, and that is not a trait women find attractive, unless they're looking for someone they can walk all over. Don't be that guy. Let the emotions die down for a while. When you stop feeling hostile toward everyone involved, then maybe you can move on. You're feeling burned right now, and the last thing you need is to get involved with another one.
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The Big Dog wrote:No. What you need is to take a step back from everything. After reading this thread, I can safely say that you're so emotionally wrapped up right now, that you will unconsciously hold anybody you date in the near term responsible for what the last one did. You will want her not for herself, but rather to replace the one you just lost (or never had, as the case may be). You'll hold her to some lofty standard that she can't reach. All I can say is... been there.
Geez, dude... go hang out with your guy friends for a while. A little male bonding is good for the soul. Man to man, you don't NEED a girlfriend. If you do, then you're desperate, and that is not a trait women find attractive, unless they're looking for someone they can walk all over. Don't be that guy. Let the emotions die down for a while. When you stop feeling hostile toward everyone involved, then maybe you can move on. You're feeling burned right now, and the last thing you need is to get involved with another one.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I've been practically sitting on hands here, trying so hard not to reply.
John - take a much needed break from dating. Whoever said having a girlfriend or boyfriend was everything in life, oughta be strung up......it is NOT everything.
Find out who you are first and foremost. Take a break from all of this! I worry about you.....truly I do.
Okay, that said, I will not reply on this thread anymore. If you were my son, we would have been having many, many heart to hearts by now!
Mary
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I could use a break anyway lol.. You guys may not know.. But I am NOT ALWAYS lol looking for somebody..
I just happened to develop some feelings for Theresa and decided to act upon them.. {I know bad idea lol}
But.. I just haven't really been looking. I can be "friends" with everybody. I still plan on being friends with "Theresa" too.. I'm just a little hurt.. but I know I'll quickly bounce back..
I know I'll bounce back because T didn't hurt me as bad as I was hurt 2 years ago {I know I'll never get hurt that bad again because I've learned a lot of lessons}.
So calm your jets.. Besides.. the thing with Alicia with her daughter or whoever.. I WAS ONLY JOKING. Please don't get defensive on me just because I was joking around.
You guys also seem to be trying to point to me as a guy who's always looking for a girlfriend. I AM NOT!
{Ok, jumps off soapboxes and apologizes to anyone offended}
I just happened to develop some feelings for Theresa and decided to act upon them.. {I know bad idea lol}
But.. I just haven't really been looking. I can be "friends" with everybody. I still plan on being friends with "Theresa" too.. I'm just a little hurt.. but I know I'll quickly bounce back..
I know I'll bounce back because T didn't hurt me as bad as I was hurt 2 years ago {I know I'll never get hurt that bad again because I've learned a lot of lessons}.
So calm your jets.. Besides.. the thing with Alicia with her daughter or whoever.. I WAS ONLY JOKING. Please don't get defensive on me just because I was joking around.
You guys also seem to be trying to point to me as a guy who's always looking for a girlfriend. I AM NOT!
{Ok, jumps off soapboxes and apologizes to anyone offended}
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rainstorm wrote: she may really have liked you and wanted to what you were like. by telling people and bragging, and also by listening to rumors, you put her in an extremely awkward position.
and, dont tell your private business to anyone.
those are a couple of exellent points. Some people (maybe her) get uncomfortable when their business is everyone's business.
And John, don't go back to work and make a big to-do about what didn't happen!
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John, you should have done this after your first relationship two years ago. Get a dog! 
I have female golden retriever of almost 5 years old. Other than my rondeveau with Emily a year ago, my puppy has made dating not as attractive. She sure helps on those what COULD BE lonely nights!
In addition, as long as you give them tender-loving care, they could care less about anything else.
Hey, my dog loves me to death, and I am not dating material ( I don't think)!
I have female golden retriever of almost 5 years old. Other than my rondeveau with Emily a year ago, my puppy has made dating not as attractive. She sure helps on those what COULD BE lonely nights!
In addition, as long as you give them tender-loving care, they could care less about anything else.
Hey, my dog loves me to death, and I am not dating material ( I don't think)!
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Josephine96 wrote:If anyone asks me what happened.. I'll just tell them nothing and leave it at that.. lol.. I won't delve into information
I couldn't possibly be that stupid.. Why does it seem like I'm being pointed to as the bad guy.. I am not a bad guy at all lol
John, you are NOT a bad guy.
You are NOT stupid either; life is just a journey of learning, some of it painful.
YES... it would be a GOOD, VERY GOOD idea to not even mention what or what did not happen. Do NOT let others take advantage over your misfortune!
If you let them, they will know that you are easy to get upset! After a while, the mockers will become less and less interested in driving you insane!
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yes I would say we all do.. I hate to bring this up.. but at times like this.. it makes me wonder.. why the heck don't girls like me..? I am "loved" by a lot of members of the opposite sex..
But that "love" is of course, friendship.. "I'll be there when you're in trouble" but not "I love you like a bf" type.. If that makes any sense lol..
Is there something I have or don't have..? Some say it's because I am an absolute sweetheart.. Some say it's because I really don't have a "wild side" and some say it's because I don't have a car lol Those are 3 of the reasons I have sometimes heard about girls not liking me...
I haven't got the slightest clue..
But that "love" is of course, friendship.. "I'll be there when you're in trouble" but not "I love you like a bf" type.. If that makes any sense lol..
Is there something I have or don't have..? Some say it's because I am an absolute sweetheart.. Some say it's because I really don't have a "wild side" and some say it's because I don't have a car lol Those are 3 of the reasons I have sometimes heard about girls not liking me...
I haven't got the slightest clue..
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Josephine96 wrote:yes I would say we all do.. I hate to bring this up.. but at times like this.. it makes me wonder.. why the heck don't girls like me..? I am "loved" by a lot of members of the opposite sex..
But that "love" is of course, friendship.. "I'll be there when you're in trouble" but not "I love you like a bf" type.. If that makes any sense lol..
Is there something I have or don't have..? Some say it's because I am an absolute sweetheart.. Some say it's because I really don't have a "wild side" and some say it's because I don't have a car lol Those are 3 of the reasons I have sometimes heard about girls not liking me...
I haven't got the slightest clue..
I have the same problem. That is why I gave up after ONE dating relationship last year.
All through my school years, I was not into sports (playing or really spectating), nor did I really have the "looks" (that is why I don't have a photo in S2K gallery by the way). I rarely got in trouble; heck, the only time when I went to the prinicipal's office was to report something ANOTHER student did to me. The teachers adored me; my high school teachers just dreaded the day I graduated (yeah, they were happy for me, but well, I was a perfect to near-perfect angle). 
What did I do on Friday/Saturday nights? I studied. I still do now that I am in college. That is probably another turn off. In some ways, I am TOO polite (this helps a BUNCH with my job in customer service
) When I hung out with Emily, her boyfriend and some of her other friends, I noticed that they got wild sometimes. If you were to meet me, I am NOT wild!
Finally, it is a nasty "catch 22" in a way. There are girls out there that are more "lighter" in a way, don't go to wild parties, etc. It is just that they are shy, don't get out much, just like the guy who may be shy and is not as out-going. Hence, it is very hard to meet!
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I'll bring up Ariana for a sec {the girl I allegedly let slip through my fingers}..
I liked her.. But I don't think I would have lasted too long with her.. She's very pretty.. I'll even say sexy lol.. But.. She has a bit of a wild side.. that I don't particularly like after a certain point lol
I liked her.. But I don't think I would have lasted too long with her.. She's very pretty.. I'll even say sexy lol.. But.. She has a bit of a wild side.. that I don't particularly like after a certain point lol
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Josephine96 wrote:I'll bring up Ariana for a sec {the girl I allegedly let slip through my fingers}..
I liked her.. But I don't think I would have lasted too long with her.. She's very pretty.. I'll even say sexy lol.. But.. She has a bit of a wild side.. that I don't particularly like after a certain point lol
Emily was the same way! I got out of that relationship in a hurry after I hung out with them on the Fourth of July weekend in 2004.
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That weekend was shaping up to be nice. Emily's parents and the rest of her family were out of town on vacation, so it was just her and 1 year old daughter.
I guess she was wondering if someone could watch her daughter while she hung out with her friends (including her boyfriend ) for the Fourth of July.
I offered to to keep an eye on her daughter either at her family's house or at my place. I guess she was getting over a high or something (another reason I kicked her to the THEORETICAL curb) because something popped into that complicated brain of hers: "Hmm, maybe we could have Brian over for the party? " They all agreed; it would have been pretty stupid if I were alone with a 1 year old daughter, while they were having fun.
The jury was still out on this group of friends I had just met, but since I really never done anything exciting, I had to give it a chance. Will that chance pretty much went down the porcelain throne!
Okay, at Emily boyfriend's apartment. They all liked me, but I was beginning to dislike them. They were VERY immature. I was surprised there was NO alcohol. If you met this bunch, you would have been surprised. So I stayed until 1am. I was beginning to feel like I did not bellong there.
So they ILLEGALLY climb onto the roof of the apartment building (4 floors, using the deck!!!!!
) They tried to convince me to join them up there to watch fireworks displays. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA, fat chance! I could have left right there and then, but Emily's daughter was taking a nap, so I watched the youngster. I think they were trying to avoid me.
After the evening, I heard that Emily boyfriend was evicted due to his entrance to the roof. That is when I said: "I wonder what other illegal and dangerous thing they decide to do?" I was done!!
I guess she was wondering if someone could watch her daughter while she hung out with her friends (including her boyfriend ) for the Fourth of July.
I offered to to keep an eye on her daughter either at her family's house or at my place. I guess she was getting over a high or something (another reason I kicked her to the THEORETICAL curb) because something popped into that complicated brain of hers: "Hmm, maybe we could have Brian over for the party? " They all agreed; it would have been pretty stupid if I were alone with a 1 year old daughter, while they were having fun.
The jury was still out on this group of friends I had just met, but since I really never done anything exciting, I had to give it a chance. Will that chance pretty much went down the porcelain throne!
Okay, at Emily boyfriend's apartment. They all liked me, but I was beginning to dislike them. They were VERY immature. I was surprised there was NO alcohol. If you met this bunch, you would have been surprised. So I stayed until 1am. I was beginning to feel like I did not bellong there.
So they ILLEGALLY climb onto the roof of the apartment building (4 floors, using the deck!!!!!
) They tried to convince me to join them up there to watch fireworks displays. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA, fat chance! I could have left right there and then, but Emily's daughter was taking a nap, so I watched the youngster. I think they were trying to avoid me.
After the evening, I heard that Emily boyfriend was evicted due to his entrance to the roof. That is when I said: "I wonder what other illegal and dangerous thing they decide to do?" I was done!!
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