Today's not gonna be a good day...

[aveosmth]

Rock,

I think that although gboudx could have maybe phrased things a bit differently, there is some truth in what he is saying. My advice would be to remember what went right and what went wrong, and use this when you feel comfortable to date again. Don't beat yourself up over the negatives, but just learn from them and this will DEFINITELY make you a stronger person.

I'll give you a little bit of personal info. I am engaged to be married and I just found out on Saturday that we are pregnant. Of course my soon to be wife has my heart, but I still will have a special place for my first girlfriend, and our relationship ended 8 YEARS ago....

[gboudx]

Yeah, sorry, sugar coating my points is not really my thing. Sometimes, I'm just too blunt for my own good.

But seriously rock, you need to move on. I think most people have had their heart broken from a relationship that didn't work out. It's not easy to deal with, but in the end you have to pick yourself up, look yourself in the eyes and move on. Allowing yourself to be constantly hurt by it, and thinking about it really serves no positive purpose in your everyday life. I can understand not wanting other people to hurt you, but hey, it happens. Develop an attitude necessary to deal with it when it does.

[therock1811]

I accept the apology. BTW this girl led me along for like 3 months before she finally dumped me. Which made it all the harder to take. She didn't tell me straight off that she didn't think of me as more than a friend, but waited 3 MONTHS to finally say so.

[David]

I understand completely.. today is the 11th month anniversary of me asking Steph out. Only lasted 12 weeks. She was my first gf too, and even though I say she has a place in my heart, sometimes I can't stand her.

Trust me, you'll find the right one. That's what all my friends tell me, and I'm sure it'll come when it's time. Yours will too.

[therock1811]

Well, it may have come. I'll have more info later, but apparently I may have a new girlfriend if all goes well this weekend.

[therock1811]

Well it's 13 months after it started...and today I had a nervous breakdown. The episode that occurred, happened around 6pm. I had to make a short trip to try to find one of those Coinstar things. Well on my way back from the 3rd place I went to, I passed my old HS. And it just so happens that they have a changeable message sign in front which displays birthdays of students and staff...well my ex's birthday is Friday. And I had no clue the announcement was coming...heck I was just looking to see what's happening at the school. At that moment, even saying a friend's name didn't help...at times, I wanted to cry, then I wanted to pound the crap outta someone. And it was like that all the way home.


I can't believe I broke down like this.

[Josephine96]

Jeremy.. It's OK.. It's really OK..

I don't know if you heard the story of what happened to me and "Cristy" back in 2003.

She led me along for a while.. Before I found out she slept with my friend that at the time lived across the street from my house..

There are times that still hurts.. But I try hard not to let it dominate my thought process.

It's Ok.. My advice.. Take all the time you need to get over Nathalie, I'm sure their are several reasons why it hurts {she was her 1st, you cared about her, thought she really cared about you}..

Take your time.. If it takes you a long time to find someone else, that's Ok.. I've learned a lesson.. Don't go looking lol.

Hang in there.. things will get better. If ya ever feel the need to speak to someone, feel free to write me and I'll respond asap..

[BettyBoop]

Rock:
Hi. I know what you are going thru. My husband and I divorced after being together for 15 years. I thought my world was over. The only thing that kept me sane was knowing I had to be there for my kids. For months I couldn't even imagine being with someone else. I thought no one could compare to him. But months later, I realized that was the problem. No one can compare. No one should be compared to anyone else. We are all individuals, with individual good and not so good traits. Is it difficult? Yes. Will it always hurt? Yes, but it will fade over time. But it's what we choose to do with that hurt that makes us who we are. It took over a year before I could even look at another man. I have dated several men since then, and even had my heart broken again by a man who loved his alcohol more than me. But I've come to realize that I am a good person who deserves to love and be loved in return. And that until I put my ex-husband and our history together in its own little place in my heart and quit expecting everyone and everything else to compare to them, then I was never going to be able to fill the rest of my heart with a good, nurturing relationship.
I am recently engaged to a wonderful man who loves me for who I am. But more importantly, I love him for who he is! He's not replacing my husband, they're 2 seperate people with 2 seperate places in my heart.
Not to sound too cliche, but I've realized that life does go on and it can be wonderful!!!
Close your eyes, take your girlfriend and her memory, wrap them up, give them a kiss and put them away. Then take a deep breath, open your eyes and see all that the world still has to offer you!
Take care and remember that you're not alone. You have lots of friends right here.

BettyBoop (AKA-Kristi)